In today's very special podcast, we're going to be talking about 15 simple rules to make dating just a little bit easier after 40.

Because Gary, we've seen that the vast, vast majority of our clients are in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, and even beyond.

I think we have a few in our 90s even.

And dating can feel really hard in this age group.

Welcome to the Love Strategies podcast, where we help successful women attract high-value

men, date with a strategy, and improve their relationships.

Now, whether you're single or dating or in a new relationship,

we're here to help you dive into the male mind and provide raw insights found nowhere else, backed by science, psychology, and our own personal experiences.

Your host today are myself, Adam LaDolce, and professional dating coach and founder of Love Strategies, and Dr. Gary Lewandowski, a relationship scientist, professor, and our head relationship coach here at Love Strategies.

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So let's get into it. What do you think, man? We're going to have some rules today?

We got rules. We're cleaning out the notebook a little bit. This is like one of those podcasts.

I love these kinds of podcasts where you get a whole bunch of quick, simple rules, easy to follow

guidelines that will make something seem that's complex, right? All this dating stuff,

really, really simple. Now, I don't know, but do you like rules? Are you like a rules guy?

Hell no, dude. I've got a motorcycle, man. And I like it. I prefer it in states where you can't, we don't have to wear a helmet. Like, come on. Okay. Now, but do you follow rules? Like, when you are supposed to wear a helmet, do you wear a helmet? Yes, scary. Do you drive on the right side of the road in America? Yeah. Like, and see, like you has that. That's the thing, right? Like we don't't like rules. I don't like rules. Like, I am allergic to rules. Anytime someone, like, makes a role, I'm like, come on, like, do we really need this? But there's no denying that we follow them. And it actually makes our life easier, right? Like, rules, I feel like, put habits on automatic pilot. Like, it allows us to not have to think so hard when we're making decisions if we have like basic rules to follow. And so as much as I don't like rules and guidelines kind of make me feel a little bit itchy too. It's like these actually help. So let's put them in the practice and let's let them help dating, right?

Yeah.

Well, I think dating and really anything in life, all this stuff can lead to just a lot of

cognitive overload where if every situation we're in with a person where it's like,

I haven't heard back from him, what do I do? Then you talk to your friends for three hours with some mimosas. And then your divorce Debbie gives you all this advice. And she says, oh, my God, no, I do it this way. And then your married friend is like, no, don't do that. And before you know it, you're just like, what do I do? And rules in many ways or principle. I prefer to call them principles, but we'll go with rules today. Principles kind of guide you down that. See, I'm already not following your rule right now. All right, Mr. Semantics. Yeah. My word police over there. I don't need to listen to you, Gary. But what it does is it just gives us a shortcut to be like, you know what? I'm not going to listen to anyone else. I'm just going to follow this process. And how often, Gary, are we just telling our clients, just follow the process? Just check the process. Stick to the plan. Like, stick to the process. And it's like so many people don't like rules. And except for like homeowners

associations. And I know like my ninth grade English teacher, shout out Ms. Crosby, loved rules, loved the grammar rules, all that stuff. But it's like most of the time we don't like it. But you know, as I started putting this together, I'm like, I really don't like rules. And so I'm like, why am I writing a whole podcast about rules?

But then I realized there's one area in my life.

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