15 Gaslighting Terms A Narcissist Will Use

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

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🗓️ 11 January 2022

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

When we are in a narcissistic abusive relationship, we hear certain phrases so often that we normalise hearing them, but they actually erode our mental health. The narcissist is gaslighting us.

In this episode, we will go through 15 gaslighting phrases I heard during my marriage with a covert narcissist. We will explore the devastating effects these phrases have on our confidence, mental health and on our self-worth.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why gaslighting is a form of abuse, and what effects it can have on our mental health

- The gaslighting phrases that can make us doubt our own sanity

- Why most narcissists use these gaslighting phrases to protect themselves

- What we can do to prevent being gaslighted by narcissist abusers

Hearing any of these 15 phrases and their variations regularly in our relationship is a huge red flag, and it should be enough to make us curious about it. The first step is to seek help, whether from a professional, a counsellor or even an online group, and then understand that we are doing what we can with the tools we have, from the programming we had from birth.

We should never forget that being in an abusive relationship is not our fault; we are in it for a reason. Once we understand that reason, we can start working on it and fix it.

Resources:

- Join my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme™ https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.5	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.4	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.
0:21.6	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:30.2	So I'm so pleased to welcome you to this episode because it's something for me that I really didn't understand when I was with my ex-husband, or even when I
0:39.9	came out, to be honest, it was only on reflection when I started to look back at the marriage that
0:44.9	I'd had with a covert narcissist that I really started to look at some of the terminology that
0:50.7	was used that I thought was just normal. And actually, it really wasn't normal.
0:56.5	Now, again, if you're maybe listening for the first time to my podcast, a massive welcome.
1:01.8	If you haven't liked and subscribed, please do so because then you will get notified where my
1:07.6	podcasts come out every single Tuesday. And I really try and make them relatable because I've
1:13.4	been exactly where you are. I really understand this situation. I'm not just somebody who
1:18.4	talks the talk. I have really walked the walk. Or should I say, I have been dragged on that walk
1:24.2	and I have literally crawled on it as well. So I totally get it and I really
1:28.5	understand it. And a lot of the stuff that I share is really things that I didn't realize.
1:34.0	And also what I do now, you know, I'm a therapist and coach in this space and I help people
1:38.7	heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse because it is trauma and it isn't just a cognitive experience.
1:45.2	This all really happens in the body. It's a real somatic and embodied experience. We can't
1:50.0	think our way out of narcissistic abuse. We have to really work in the body from a trauma
1:55.4	perspective. So in this episode, I want to talk to you about a term you may or may not have
1:59.5	heard of called gaslighting. And I've done other podcast episodes on certain types of gas lighting
2:06.2	as well, because gaslighting in itself is psychological abuse. And I want to go through in this
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