12 Signs You Are Dating a Narcissist

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 4 January 2022

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

Something I get asked a lot on social media is, how do I know if I'm dating a narcissist again? The decision to start dating again after a separation is personal and it doesn't have a specific time to occur. However, after suffering narcissistic abuse, whether we are looking for Mr or Mrs Right, or Mr or Mrs Right Now, one thing is sure: we want to avoid dating a narcissist. In this episode, we will go through the 12 signs you should pay attention to to know if you are dating a narcissist.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Beware of love bombing at the beginning of the relationship

- What a strong entitlement attitude is really telling us

- The things we can easily spot during a casual conversation about how narcissists talk and what they talk about

- Being alert to manipulative attitudes and the consequences of not following their plans

- What we can read from a strong lack of commitment and a constant tendency to break the rules

- Why narcissists put others down all the time, why they are master gaslighters, and why they don't have long-term friendships

It usually takes some time, at least six or seven dates, to spot a narcissist. However, we can have our eyes and ears open to these 12 signs, be aware of them and see if any of them rarely appears, appears often, or almost all the time. We must be patient and we don't need to go full-blown from the very beginning. If we've found the right person and the relationship is meant to be, then time is not really an issue.

Resources:

- Join my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme™ https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse

- Join my Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse

- Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/

- My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Strawson and I'll be sharing with you
0:09.5	awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.
0:16.4	I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe you.
0:21.3	And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.
0:30.5	So I get lots of messages asking me about dating after the narcissist.
0:37.2	And one of the big things, and boy, boy, can I
0:39.3	relate to this is how will I know if I'm dating a narcissist again? And I think that's one of
0:45.6	our biggest fears, isn't it? You know, I know when myself and my ex-husband went through a divorce
0:49.9	and I thought, I'm never getting married again. I'm never ever going to be in a relationship
0:53.7	again. That's it. No, no chance ever, ever, ever, ever. And I would genuinely think that.
1:00.7	I thought, I don't ever want to be in this situation again. And I was so adamant. But as human
1:05.7	beings, we are wired for connection. So in this episode, I want to talk to you about when you start dating again,
1:12.0	what are 12 signs to notice if you are dating a narcissist? Now, what I will say is, when you start
1:19.7	dating again, make sure that you are ready. And there's a real difference as well between
1:24.4	looking for Mr. or Ms. Wright and looking for Mr. and Miss Right now.
1:30.2	And there's a real difference for that. So that's all to do with your own healing journey.
1:34.3	But I would say, you know, you want to date somebody who's on the same page as you at the end of the day.
1:38.5	Of course, you can go and have some fun. You're all adults. But make sure you're both on the same page with all of that. I know certainly for me,
1:44.6	when I started online dating, I wanted someone to still rescue me to come in, charging on a
1:49.3	lovely white horse and shiny armour this night and come and rescue me. And sadly, that never happened.
1:57.1	Luckily, I actually rescued myself, but I was still very much the codependent at that time
2:02.5	looking for somebody else to fix and rescue me as opposed to going within and doing that
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