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so that we can have a great podcast show. Today's tea with Julie focuses on how to avoid the meltdown.

Hi friend. on how to avoid the meltdown.

Hi friend, it's possible to offer your young writer editorial feedback

without triggering a meltdown.

Here's an example from brave writer parent Hillary.

I was trying to coach my dear daughter, who's 10 years old, on her first draft of an essay. We had talked about using her first draft, which she did on her own, without my prompting, as a base for a writing project, and she agreed,

as we went over it I commented on the good things I saw the detail I liked the flow of the essay the excellent ending her topic was helpful, influential genres. She agreed this was more accurate

a title than helpful influential books. As I commented on the things that could be spruced up to be made more powerful, she got really defensive and closed up emotionally.

I wanted her to choose a different word or phrase for helpful in her essay to fill out what that means.

Neither of my daughters likes to be corrected,

even when I preface everything with things I liked

and things that they did well.

How do I help them understand that I want to help

them grow as writers? Is there a way to help them before they have a meltdown?

Here's my response.

Meltdowns over editorial input are familiar to all writers.

It takes time to let go of the ego investment long enough to recognize

that someone's input may actually help you write better than you realized you

could.

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