Hi, I'm Rina Ninean and this is Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.

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brand new YouTube channel, Ask Lisa Podcast. Encore episode 149, should I bribe my kid?

As we enjoy the holiday season, we know parents are also looking ahead to the new year.

One of the questions we often get at the Ask Lisa podcast is about motivation.

When you keep nagging and your child doesn't respond, what really works?

When you're trying to get them to study, do their chores, or even just to take on some sort of a new activity.

Dr. Lisa discusses how to motivate your kid without nagging them.

How do you better navigate the resistance?

And when does bribing your child really work?

What should you do?

We take all that up on this week's encore episode, should I bribe my kid.

What age do your kids actually do things that you don't have to keep nagging them

over and over and over again to do? 35. I sure feels that way. It can't feel the way.

You know, actually, Rina, what interests me here, what I think of when you ask that question,

is actually how there's a real shift.

And for a lot of parents, it feels like overnight in terms of how nagging goes down with your kids.

So when your kids are little, you know, pre-adolescent, I think what a lot of people find, I certainly find, is if you say, you know, you need to clean your room, you need to do this thing, they may, you know, grumble about it. But if you lean on them or if you get mad, they will do it. And then really, like one day they wake up and you say to them, you need to clean your room, and they don't want to do it.

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