150: Encore: How Do I Get My Son to Stop Picking On His Little Sister?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Mental Health, Kids & Family, Health & Fitness, Parenting

4.7 • 824 Ratings

🗓️ 26 December 2023

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Why are tweens and teens sometimes so cruel to their younger siblings? This is a common dynamic in family life, and one that can get worse over the holidays when siblings spend a lot of time together. Dr. Lisa takes us inside the adolescent brain and explains how the onset of puberty can make it hard for kids to control their emotions. She and Reena also address the place of gendered dynamics in sibling interactions, how not to shame kids when they’ve crossed a line, and what parents can do during or after a big blowout to prevent lasting harm. ________________ Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens is the essential podcast for parents seeking expert guidance, tested strategies, and psychological insights on raising kids, especially tweens and teens. Join renowned clinical psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and former journalist and mom of two Reena Ninan as they explore real-life parenting challenges. Looking to learn more about how to boost kids’ resilience, build their confidence, or support their emotional well-being? Dr. Lisa and Reena have got you covered! Together they address listener questions about stress, anxiety, social media concerns, school pressures, and challenges in peer relationships. Each episode provides practical advice and science-backed solutions to help parents raise resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy kids. Tune in every week for the latest topics in parenting, child psychology, and family wellness. Get answers to your most pressing parenting questions. New episodes drop every Tuesday. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com

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0:00.0	Hi, I'm Rina Ninean and this is Ask Lisa, the Psychology of Parenting Podcast.
0:10.7	It's a podcast to help parents better understand their kids. Dr. Lisa DeMore, a psychologist with three
0:17.2	decades of experience, and the author of three New York Times best-selling parenting
0:21.8	books takes your questions. Both of us are moms ourselves, and we're eager to hear from you.
0:27.1	So send us your questions to Ask Lisa at Dr.LisaDemore.com. And you can join our community by
0:32.8	following us on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. The handle is Ask Lisa Podcast. And also subscribe to our
0:39.7	brand new YouTube channel, Ask Lisa Podcast. Oncore episode 150, how do I get my son to stop picking on
0:47.2	his little sister? Why are siblings sometimes so cruel to each other? It's a struggle parents are constantly forced to deal with.
0:57.4	And I know when they're on winter break, it can feel even worse when they have more time together.
1:03.1	Dr. Lisa takes us inside the adolescent brain. She discusses how the start of puberty can make emotional control harder for kids.
1:12.9	We also discuss gender dynamics. And Lisa explains the start of puberty can make emotional control harder for kids. We also discuss gender dynamics.
1:18.4	And Lisa explains the importance of not shaming one child when they hurt another. We also discuss what parents can do in the moment, and even after a big blowout, to make sure there is no lasting
1:23.6	harm. Lisa and I want to wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Well, we decided to
1:29.9	tackle the issue of sibling rivalry. Why do they happen? What's going on here? Especially before we get
1:35.4	into the summer months, Lisa, when they're going to be around each other all the time. They are,
1:39.5	and it can get spicy. Rina, it can get spicy. So we got this great letter. It says, Dear Dr. Lisa,
1:45.8	my 13-year-old son is a really great kid, but he's just mean to his 11-year-old sister. We don't
1:51.6	allow name-calling in her house, but he barks answers at her when she asks a question,
1:55.6	aggressively corrects her when she makes a mistake, and is constantly and obviously
1:59.4	annoyed by her mere presence. To make matters
2:02.4	worse, my daughter looks up to her brother and tends to second his opinions, which drives him crazy.
2:07.9	I've tried to talk to him, but he says, we just don't know how much she annoys him on purpose
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