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brand new YouTube channel, Ask Lisa Podcast. Episode 148, what should I do with dicey information about

other people's kids? You know, one thing I love about the holiday season are traditions that even as the kids get older, they still love traditions.

Like, that crazy elf on the shelf.

They still like the elf on the shelf, even though they know the reality of elf on the shelf.

You know, it's magic.

It's the magical things. Our tradition, so I knit for my, is my hobby,

and I knit advent calendars for my girls. So, um, I didn't know this. There's a mitten,

there's a little tiny mitten or a little tiny hat, and it's in a garland in our kitchen,

there's one for each of them.

And, you know, I have a college kid who still loves when she gets home digging into this thing.

Now, of course, she gets home deep into December. And so she gets to open the first like 20 days at once.

So it's pretty fun. But she still loves it, even though she's in college.

She still loves it. And I still love filling it. I mean, I will always love filling it. I love that.

I absolutely love that. So it's interesting, as you're talking about the different stages,

college, this letter talks about getting information and you're not sure what to do about it,

which I imagine Lisa, like kids share and come home, and whether it's

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