What is disorganized attachment style? What are the signs of it? And how do you heal from this so that you can feel more secure in your relationships?

Today's episode is a much requested deep dive into disorganized attachment, otherwise known as fearful avoidant,

my personal journey as someone who used to be wired this way to now being secure, and so much more

you need to listen to this episode, especially if you're unsure of your attachment style

right after this intro.

Welcome to the Inner Child Podcast.

Now with 2 million downloads, I help high achievers recover from painful relationships and childhood trauma.

Let's heal together on Season 2 of the Inner Child Podcast.

Hello, my loves, welcome back to the Inner Child Podcast. I am your host, Gloria Zhang.

I'm an award-winning therapist, relationship coach, and author.

And today we have a highly requested episode.

Thank you to all these people.

Everyone wants an episode on disorganized attachment.

Ever since I put out episode number 71 on WTF, our anxious and avoided attachment styles. So I would highly recommend going back to episode 71, listen to that one first. It is in season one, which means

it's not on YouTube, but you can find it on Spotify and Apple, where I did briefly touch upon

exactly how attachment styles work.

Now, disorganized people often feel extremely broken because they're constantly in this turmoil.

They're highly reactive and they flip back and forth between being anxious and avoidant, but never feeling like the hurt

is resolved. And so if we do a Google search, we can look at some common signs of

disorganized attachment. But I don't feel like these signs really do it justice. So, you know,

strong need for closeness, feeling unlovable or unworthy,

struggling to believe your partner when they say they love you, feeling uncomfortable or distrustful

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