146 SelfWork: Your Questions About Perfectly Hidden Depression
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 13 September 2019
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
It's been Suicide Awareness Week here in the US so I wanted to feature your questions about the well-researched but still largely unrecognized signal for potential suicide risk -- what I term perfectly hidden depression. You have great questions. The first is from a writer who is losing her battle between creativity and perfectionism; the second from a wife and mother who is busy all day, but feels “blah” at night. A young woman used the SpeakPipe feature of the podcast (see below..) and asks about how to move from what she terms “self-hatred” to “self-love." And the last is from a man who’s tried therapist after therapist, but now realizes that he tried to be the perfect patient and never revealed parts of himself that might show him in a vulnerable light. How can he begin to be real?
Thank you for all these questions! If you're interested, I've also shared the first published excerpt from my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression, on my website -- just click here!
Important links:
The Questionnaire for perfectly hidden depression
You can hear more about coping with depression and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!
My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depressionwill be arriving November 1, 2019 and you can pre-orderhere! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.
And there’s a new way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You’ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:30.0 | Hello and welcome to the 146 episode of self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical |
| 0:36.7 | psychologist out of Fable, Arkansas. And I began podcasting about three years ago because I wanted to extend the walls of my practice |
| 0:45.8 | to those of you who might be interested in psychology, might be in therapy, to those of you who |
| 0:50.9 | might be initially diagnosed with depression or anxiety or even those of you |
| 0:56.3 | who would never truly darken the door of a therapist, but are just curious enough to tune in. |
| 1:02.8 | Today we're going to talk a little bit about my own journey |
| 1:06.6 | as I've written about perfectly hidden depression, |
| 1:09.4 | especially why and how this podcast was born. |
| 1:13.0 | But every week I get lots of questions about what I term perfectly hidden depression. |
| 1:18.0 | The very first podcast on that was episode 3, |
| 1:22.0 | and they're interspersed throughout the podcast. |
| 1:25.6 | By the way I have some plans to pull all of those podcasts together in a series so they make it |
| 1:31.3 | a lot easier for you to find them. |
| 1:33.0 | For those of you who haven't been listening, |
| 1:35.0 | perfectly hidden depression is a term I came up with |
| 1:38.0 | more than five years ago |
| 1:40.0 | to explain a different kind of presentation of depression that can be |
| 1:46.2 | expertly masked by perfectionism. I encourage you if you're interested to go listen to episode 3 and 4. |
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