Welcome back to the being her podcast.

I have just finished watching my whole Spotify lineup.

And oh my God, we're topped 1% of the most shared shows ever globally so thank you for

sharing and I think this is one you're going to want to share because this is my top asked

theme of all time is how did I and is it possible to go from anxious attachment to secure attachment within the relationship that you're in?

Because a lot of the public and famous rhetoric about relationships is that somebody's in the right,

another person is in the wrong, and the person who is in the right needs to cut him off queen, you dissolve better girl,

just, you know, move on and all this stuff, which is all fine and dandy, but they're missing big,

pivotal parts of the equation.

Your attachment style could be causing the breakdown of the relationship, i.e. maybe the person you're

with isn't actually an avoidant, but your anxious attachment is so overwhelming that they end up

avoiding you. Or this is a very important fact that changed it a lot for me. And that was,

if you do not fix your issues, what is going on with you in the moment you are just

going to take them to the next relationship so you might as well practice and fix them in your

current state because then you will see from a much clearer perspective a much clearer

picture what it is you're dealing with and if you

are the issue. Say you are with Todd, right, and you believe you've got anxious attachment and maybe

you're ruining the relationship in one way or another and you feel that you're going to move on

and then you're going to work on yourself and you're going to become secure and then you're going to meet Jeff.

The problem there is that one cannot always work out their attachment style when they are solo.

It's possible and it's absolutely doable.

If you're single, don't worry about it, there's also segments of that in this podcast.

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