Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, how are you? I am settled into the place that I will be

staying for the summer and I am looking out at a burbling creek and a pine tree because that's the only tree that has leaves on it here

and I'm pretending that it is warmer than 50 degrees outside because it just really should be by now warmer that's my firm belief but

nature is not following my manual which is so rude right people don't follow

our manuals and the nature and viruses and the

government, right? No one will just do what we know they just really should do,

right? And things just won't be how they should be.

It just would, right?

It would make everything so much easier

if the world would follow our manual for it.

This is not an episode about the manual itself

because I've already talked about that at length on the

podcast and if you're in the clutch you know I'm coaching you all all the time on your

manuals for other people in the world but I was thinking about that because I do think today's topic is kind of related to our manuals because it's about how we react to and make sense of when something or someone doesn't work out the way we think it should.

We don't like what has happened.

And that is closure.

So closure is one of those, I think, kind of pop psychology concepts that we throw around

a lot in ways that are kind of counterproductive without fully understanding what closure is or how it actually works.

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