140: How To Keep The Spark Alive

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.4 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 28 March 2018

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Intimacy is an area of our relationships that can often be overlooked, especially if you've been together for a long time. The spark does not have to fade! There are simple and easy steps to take to create more intimacy and have more satisfaction in our relationships. In this episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: Why checking in with your partner on a daily basis is a profoundly simple way to greatly improve your relationship. How to create and maintain the new and novel feelings we have early in our relationships. Understanding and communicating our attachment styles to help create more intimacy in our relationship. How our attachment styles can be changed for the better. Learning the different intimacy needs of your partner and how to communicate your own needs. And much more! Tim Cole is an Associate Professor at DePaul University where he studies how differences in people’s need for intimacy can lead to a betrayal of trust. He’s also the author of Broken Trust: Overcoming an Intimate Betrayal. Full show notes and episode links at: http://idopodcast.com/140 Sign up for our 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge here: 14 Day Happy Couples Challenge Do you want to hear more on this topic? Are you or your partner struggling with making lasting, positive changes in your relationship? If so, you're not alone. Continue the conversation on our Facebook Group here: Love Tribe Sponsors Songfinch: Songfinch brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. Visit Songfinch.com and enter the promo code IDO to get 10% off! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! - Chase & Sarah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	And Take me to the place in the middle of the sun.
0:17.0	Take me to the place in the middle of the sun. Hello podcast listeners.
0:30.0	Welcome to I do podcast. Thanks for joining us on this lovely
0:37.2	Wednesday or whatever other day you're listening to it. Yeah, we're recording this on a
0:41.7	Wednesday, but you'll be listening to this in the future.
0:46.3	Who knows what day it'll be, but hopefully it's a good day for you.
0:50.8	And hopefully today's show will give you a lot of great advice.
0:56.3	I know it was great for us.
0:59.0	We talked with Dr. Tim Cole and he is an associate professor at DePaul University where for over 20 years he has studied
1:07.8	relationships and more recently and particularly how differences in people's need for intimacy can lead to a betrayal of trust and he is also an author of the book Broken Trust overcoming an intimate betrayal.
1:23.2	And today we talk about how to increase intimacy
1:27.6	in a relationship.
1:28.6	And it's definitely something we've talked about before,
1:30.7	but it's a super important part of being together with someone else.
1:35.8	Yeah, we really focused on a lot about understanding your attachment style and your
1:41.9	partner's attachment style because I mean we've talked about this briefly but I really didn't realize that your attachment style had that much of effect on how you perceive intimacy in your relationship.
1:54.8	So really understanding your attachment style really can help you and your relationship
2:01.2	with your partner.
2:02.2	Yeah, and one of the other things we've talked about before, but like trying new things.
2:06.8	It's something Sarah and I, 2018, we gotta do because we just get, we get stuck in these, these are routine we've been together for like
2:15.6	eight years now we know each other nine years whatever I mean and whatever oh okay I mean and uh... whatever okay i mean you value that the number more than I do but
2:27.2	i know a while give me a hard time and we need to try new things so so that is
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