I knew what I wanted or as I got clear and clear because I feel like dating is just collecting information really.

And so as I was getting clear and clear on what I didn't want,

and also I was kind of out of integrity with what I did want.

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Today we're talking all about why I don't believe settling is a real thing.

Okay, if you're just now jumping on, my name is Beatrice, and I'm a self-love embodiment coach and the host of the self-love fix podcast,

I'm excited for this conversation. I'm not going to lie, this is probably going to be a little triggering, and I don't mean triggering in a bad way.

I just mean that, prepare to see things differently, if that's a better way of saying it.

So, settling. I hear this conversation all the time about settling. People might say you shouldn't settle or I settled, maybe you've used this language before,

but I don't actually believe that settling is a real thing.

And here's the thing. Settling implies that you are choosing or have chosen someone who is beneath your standards.

This is part of the reason why I have an issue with the concept of settling because it's like, okay, someone is beneath your standards,

but you chose to be with them, to speak with them, to entertain them. Notice I said, chose.

This is where it might get a little triggering. This is where it might get a little triggering because it's like, so with the standards, if we're talking about this thing of settling implies you are choosing beneath your standards, who decides the standards?

You know what I mean? Who decides the standards here? So if we decide the standards, and do you see, are you getting what I'm saying?

It's not cooking yet. It's going to click soon because, but keep that in mind. Who decides the standards here?

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