134: The Secret to Happiness
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 31 March 2014
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
While many things contribute to happiness, one key attitude shift in how we talk and think about our activities will help us be much happier.
- “Happiness isn’t doing what you like, it’s liking what you do.” -Quote on my dad’s desk
- Vance Caesar was one of my professors in graduate school.
- He wrote The High Achiever’s Guide To Happiness*
- Vance said, “Create more ‘gets to’s’ than ‘got to’s”
- Do you have more “get to’s” than “got to’s?”
- Do you have to give someone feedback today, or do you get to?
- Do you have to give a presentation today, or do you get to?
- Do you have to resolve a conflict today, or do you get to?
- Do you have to go to work today, or do you get to?
- The secret to happiness is having more “gets to’s” than “got to’s”
What will you do this week to turn a “got to” into a “get to?”
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| 0:00.0 | On Today's Show The Secret of Happiness. |
| 0:04.0 | This is Coaching for Leaders episode 134. |
| 0:08.0 | Produced by Innovate Learning, Maximizing human potential. |
| 0:13.0 | Greetings to you from Orange County, California. |
| 0:19.0 | This is coaching for leaders, and I'm your host, Dave Stahovia. This is a weekly coaching show to help us all be better leaders through improved communication, human relations, and personal productivity, the people side of business, |
| 0:37.0 | organizations, of making things happen beyond just having all of the right spreadsheets correct and having the inventory right |
| 0:45.8 | and having the perfect project management system. It's the people part of our jobs that as leaders are going to allow us to be able to take full advantage of the skills, resources that people bring to the organization not for just our benefit but for |
| 1:06.8 | their benefit to and if that is something that you are interested in if you have |
| 1:10.4 | learned other things in your life and in your career and been trained in other areas |
| 1:15.4 | but have never examined how to look at how you're approaching people and using your leadership attitudes effectively this is the show for you and |
| 1:25.8 | I'm so glad that you tuned in today because there are so many wonderful things coming up on |
| 1:30.8 | the show in the coming weeks. Lots of great guests I have lined up and |
| 1:35.4 | those of you who listen to the show regularly and are part of this community know |
| 1:39.9 | that each week I usually have a guest or have a topic where we'll have about a 30 or 45 minute show and I'll tell you this week's going to be a little bit shorter show because this week's |
| 1:52.0 | this week's topic something that happened to me that reminded me of |
| 1:56.9 | something that's just oh so important in how we show up in the world, in the work world, but also in our personal lives too. |
| 2:09.0 | So this week a story and a few thoughts. |
| 2:12.0 | It was Friday morning this late this past week and I walked into Luke's |
| 2:18.1 | bedroom as I do most mornings since I usually get him out of bed. He's just over two years old now. |
| 2:25.0 | And he often is awake by the time I'll walk into his room and he is usually doing something. |
| 2:31.2 | And often it's reading a book or looking out the window but on Friday |
| 2:36.2 | morning he had made it into his closet and had pulled out his swim shirt and |
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