#134: My Marriage Started With Trauma And Has Continued To Be Traumatic What Do I Do?
The Betrayed, The Addicted, The Expert
Ashlynn Mitchell, Brannon Patrick, Coby Mitchell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 23 May 2022
⏱️ 7 minutes
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Summary
Caller Kathryn's Question: "Married 41 years. Separated 3.5. On New Year’s Day, he said he wanted to show me sobriety ( from fantasy and masturbation) and he was going to begin with a new CSAT and he wanted us to get together twice a week and start marriage counseling too. None of this has happened. I asked him in a text two weeks ago how his sobriety was going. He said he couldn’t say it was going well. His excuses for not moving back home are his resentment and his lack of sobriety. He has never let me help him yet he acts like a victim. He’s paying the bills but I work too and I have about 6000 saved for divorce or legal separation. I was a stay-at-home Mom. I’m 65. I don’t want to divorce but don’t want to live with him as he is. I don’t really feel married. Friends say I need to be the spark for redemption. I have told him I forgive him and will continue forgiving as it continues to hurt. He date-raped me twice before marriage and created the narrative that we had sex. This is a major trauma. Any suggestions?"
Tyler Patrick, "The Wandering Therapist", is co-founder of Love Strong (lovestrong.com), a Christian-based Recovery + WHOLEHEARTED living therapy practice. If you'd like to work with Love Strong via telehealth or in-person, reach out to us at [email protected] or go to our website: https://lovestrong.com. We have a great online Foundations Of Recovery Class starting soon. This class is for sex addiction recovery and healing from betrayal trauma. Go to https://lovestrong.com/services/foundations-group/ to learn more and sign up.
Brannon Patrick, "The Expert", is co-founder of Therapy Utah (therapyutah.org). You can follow Brannon on Instagram @brannon_patrick. He has some really great online courses available at brannonpatrick.com like his Boundary Bootcamp course. Brannon has a program called L.I.F.T. for betrayal trauma and addiction recovery available online starting soon. Go to https://www.liftforrecovery.com/ for more info! Join us for one of our "Life-Changing" retreats. therapybros.com/events
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| 0:00.0 | My marriage started with trauma and has continued to be traumatic. |
| 0:05.0 | What do I do? |
| 0:07.0 | Welcome to the Real Talk Recovery Podcast with the Therapy Brothers. |
| 0:10.0 | We're brothers, we're therapists, and we know recovery. |
| 0:14.0 | Bring your stories, your questions, your successes with real recovery. |
| 0:31.0 | Another good discussion on trauma today, Brandon. |
| 0:35.0 | I think it's going to be great. We got a good guest today. |
| 0:38.0 | I'm going to hurry and read a review. |
| 0:40.0 | We got another good review, came through. It was really short and succinct, but it was a good one. |
| 0:44.0 | So this one comes from MJMCD, and it says, Life Saver. |
| 0:49.0 | This podcast is helping me keep my sanity. |
| 0:52.0 | Thank you for your calm, insight, and wisdom. |
| 0:56.0 | That right there, Tyler, is why we do the podcast is if there's somebody out there somewhere in some neck of the woods, |
| 1:04.0 | that just needs a lifeline and needs some hope and some guidance and some things to think about, |
| 1:11.0 | then if we can provide any bit of that hope and guidance, that's why we do this. |
| 1:16.0 | So thank you for that feedback. |
| 1:18.0 | We love hearing that there's maybe some good coming to you as a result of what we're doing, |
| 1:23.0 | because that's really all we want to do. |
| 1:26.0 | Well, Tyler, you really quick, you got some new wheels. |
| 1:35.0 | You've never been a guy to have like rims on your wheels. |
| 1:39.0 | That's not my style, man. |
| 1:41.0 | You're like OG gangster. |
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