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well hello and welcome to Hello Freedom. I'm your host Terry Cole, and I appreciate

you taking time out of your busy life to hang out with me, even if it's just for 30 minutes so thank you. Today I'm going to be

talking about this indirect communication style when you have a beef with someone let's say you have a beef with someone, let's say you have a beef with Bob, but instead

of going to Bob, you go to Betty and say Bob acted like an idiot in this meeting if it's a work thing or I'm mad at Bob for this

reason and you expect and actually want Betty to go back to Bob and tell him that you're

pissed off. That's called triangulation and it is

super common and you may not even be aware that you do it but it's something that if you really want to up your communication game

and if you want to have healthier relationships,

then you don't want to triangulate. It's very easy, especially if you come from a family system

like I did, because I had three older sisters and a mom, really easy. If you were raised in a system where there was a lot of

triangulating to just carry it into the rest of your life just as we do

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