You got me in my car so you know it's going to be good. Okay, welcome back to the

Being Her podcast. Thank you for being here and lending me your ear, ladies and some gentlemen.

And you also got me on TikTok talking about Taylor Swift. Why have you got me doing that? I don't even listen to Taylor Swift. But I listen to you. So if you want to know what I said, you can go on there, or I'll just tell you. I find it amazing how many people outsource permission to other people. I find it amazing how many people outsource the fact that she used to be a single cat lady and now she's in love and she sounds a bit silly because she's in love.

But don't we all?

Anyway, I'm not going to digress because this is 13 hard truths that will set you free.

And it came to me because I thought of one and more and more started coming to me and these are ones that you did not see coming.

These are not the obvious relationship ones that you did not see coming. These are not

the obvious relationship ones. They are not that way. They came to me because I saw someone talking

about how hard it was to date in your 40s, right? And I've had this thing come up where I was

listening to someone else's podcast. I think it was Valeria Lipavetsky and she talked about the maiden era that she used to be in where you're in your early 20s or that now Taylor Swift is in ladies and gents, okay, where you are just, and we access it at different ages, okay? Taylor's in her mid-30s, that's fine. She's a bit of a girly girl. She's slower to grow up. Not in a bad way. Like, she makes more money than all of us put together. But, you know, she's got that girly attitude. Some of us grow up very early, right? But she's in her maiden era where you are young. It's before kids. And you are very eager to please the man in your life. And I thought that meeting someone and

getting together with them is not necessarily hard because like it's a like there aren't any men.

Like men get divorced. They're around. You know, there are human beings around. But it's more so because

your lack of willingness to compromise that's the thing and

i'm not saying you should compromise that's not what i'm saying at all but in your 20s your biology

makes it super duper easy for you to bend over backwards metaphorically speaking to make a man happy

i remember i made an easter basket for my husband. What are you doing with your time girl?

And you might be thinking, oh, that's so cute because you're in your 20s, right? Right now,

I make Easter baskets for my children. When I met him, I was 24 and he was 32 or something along

those lines. I can't remember the exact ages.

But what am I doing making an Easter basket?

But I focused all of my maternal and kind of loving maiden run through the fields, anxiously attached energy onto this poor sod who doesn't need it.

His face when you got it was like, oh, thanks.

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