Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. If we're new to this

podcast or if we've been listening to this podcast for a while, my guess is we're

here to figure out how to be happy. And if you are new, there's well over a hundred

episodes describing just how to do that. But in today's episode I want to look

at a threat to our happiness. And the threat has nothing to do with the external world. The threat is

completely created in our own minds. And if we're able to understand these threats,

then we can alleviate them and truly find happiness in our daily lives.

So what are these threats?

They're really based on one thing.

It's our desire, it's our attachment for things to go certain ways and the stronger that

desire that stronger that attachment the more we have the potential to suffer.

Let me use the example of Jill and Jamie. They're both in their 30s. They both are single and they both would like to get married some day.

And especially they would both like to be parents. They're both looking forward to motherhood and all that entails.

And as I said, they're single and they're in their 30s.

So two things are happening.

One is they have what's called an internal clock, something ticking inside of them that says if they

don't hurry up it's going to be a lot harder to have kids. And the second thing is, like

I said, they're single, so they don't even have the prospects of meeting someone

to start creating kids with.

Jill every day throughout the day really suffers because of this.

She really wants to have kids.

As I said, there aren't any prospects for her and she knows her internal clock is ticking, so she just

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