You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we're talking

all about some common misconceptions about avoidant attachment. Now, today's episode is a little bit

special because I'm recording live from Bangkok of all places and I'm joined by my partner

Joel. Hi, Joel. Hi, guys. So it's a bit of a funny story. I'm going to expose how disorganized I am in telling the truth here,

but we are on a holiday and I didn't get around to recording a podcast episode before I left.

So packed my podcast mic along with my laptop with a view to recording an episode for you from our hotel in Bangkok.

And lo and behold, unbeknownst to us, our hotel in Bangkok has a podcast recording studio,

which is just extremely unlikely, but very opportune.

So we are sitting here in a fully fledged podcast recording studio in our hotel in Bangkok. And we're going to be

talking all about some misconceptions about avoided attachment. So as you would know,

if you've been listening to the podcast for a while, it's really important to me to rebalance

the scales, I suppose, insofar as understanding avoidant attachment and extending

a level of curiosity and compassion to that experience.

Obviously, most of my work is around anxious attachment, but I think that it would be fair

to say so much of the content all over the internet and everywhere else is often centered on the

anxious attachment experience. And to the extent that it talks about avoidant attachment,

it's usually with a view to either demonizing or trying to change your avoidant partner

so that you feel better about the relationship. And if you're familiar with my philosophy,

notwithstanding the fact that I'm definitely, you know,

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