You are listening to the Take a Break podcast with Rachel Hart, episode 132.

Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit from the inside out.

We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink and why it can be hard to resist temptation.

No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking.

Now here's your host, Rachel Hart.

Well, hello everyone. We are talking about showing up for yourself today.

Let me tell you, this is a skill that you must learn how to do.

You must learn how to keep your word to yourself if you want to succeed at keeping any of your commitments, but especially if you want to keep your commitments around whether or not you are drinking and how much you are drinking.

If you want to be able to trust yourself when you say, I'm not going to drink tonight and then know that you're not going to drink.

If you want to be able to trust yourself when you say, I'm committed to only having one glass of wine and then not have any more than that.

This requires learning how to show up for yourself and I want you to know this first and foremost. It is a skill.

It is something that you can practice and develop. Do not tell yourself, oh, it's just not who I am.

Do not believe that it's a personality trait that showing up for yourself is something that is wired into your DNA, that it's something you're born with.

That is never the case. It is a skill that you learn.

The problem is most of us are never taught anything about it or how to practice it, how to become someone who shows up for themselves.

Let's talk about first what is getting in the way. What is getting in the way of showing up for yourself?

I will tell you what I believed for the longest time about myself and I hear this from my clients over and over again is the sense of, I want to show up for myself.

I am desperate to keep my commitments. I am desperate to be able to trust myself and trust that I do what I say I'm going to do.

I feel like I have this split personality. That's how I felt for so long in my life. I felt like there was a morning version of Rachel who had all these good intentions about what she was going to do with the next 24 hours in front of her.

I was going to go out for a run after work. I was going to eat healthy all day long and I definitely wasn't going to drink too much.

In fact, that morning version of me was like, you don't even need it. You don't even need to drink tonight.

But there was also an evening version of me. And it seemed like once that evening version of me appeared all my good intentions from the morning, they just went right out the window.

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