Welcome to Seltzer Squad, the podcast about staying sober in the city with your host, Kate Sander and Jess Valentine.

Hi, Kate.

Hi, Jess. It's been a long time.

I know it really has. What are we talking about today?

We're going to talk about other people's drinking how and if it affects us. I think it does affect us. How would you say it affects you?

I think now does affect us. How would you say it affects you? I think now being soberer than I was,

it used to bug me a lot more in the beginning. It doesn't bug me as often until people get drunk.

And then I feel very affected. Yeah, I get that. I actually spoke to Nance about this because I find that I get really annoyed with my friends and just people that are drunk in general. Like, I almost feel like I

look down on them. Yeah, like I judge. Yeah, I get really judgmental and I feel like,

who the fuck am I to be so judgmental? Like, why am I on a soapbox? Yeah. Especially when like last year or whatever, whenever I was like the same, you know, doing the same things that they were. And she said it's my mind's way of defending itself. Yeah, which is really interesting because I am like Princess FOMO. Like I get FOMO so bad. Yeah.

And she said, yeah, it's like your mind's way of kind of defending itself and trying to like keep itself safe.

And I thought that was really interesting.

So ever since she said that I kind of give myself a little bit of leeway to kind of be judgment.

I mean, I'm not outwardly judgmental.

But in my head I am.

Yeah. But obviously being like the only sober person or amongst a group of drunk people is not

going to be like very fun.

I know.

And sometimes I'm like, oh my God, that person's drinking a lot.

And I kind of like mentally get in a space of like, are they drinking dangerously?

Like, you know, part of me empathizes like do they have a problem but then i mean at the

end of the day like it's none of my fucking business so i know that it's not about me you know and i know

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