I received a question from one of our listeners. It went like this. I'm reading a parenting book. On the one hand, it's fantastic, totally shifting my paradigms. On the other, it's cutting me to shreds by revealing how counterproductive or downright harmful my prior approach was.

So I'm struck with a potent mix of enthusiasm and

commitment to the new idea and intense regret that I wasted nine years on the old way.

I'm sure I'm not alone in this.

Rationally, I know we all make mistakes and damage our kids.

That's a freaking truth.

But emotionally, I feel intense guilt and remorse.

Shame for hurting my kids.

Shame for not knowing better.

Bitterly wishing I could go back and tell my 25-year-old self

to get in therapy sooner. I know these feelings aren't really productive, but

ignoring them won't help either. So what do I do with them? Could you please do a

podcast on the topic of regret?

I'm Julie Bogart.

Welcome to the Brave Rider Podcast. Today we are going to talk about regret.

What a fantastic question our listener posed.

What do we do with regret? When we have regret is it legitimate? Is regret selfish or is it

something that we ought to feel? This listener has given us a potent picture of what it feels like when we have

regret. We learned something we didn't know before and now evaluate a past

choice in light of this new information.

I'm sure you've all experienced it.

I know I certainly have.

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