127: Compare & Despair
Take a Break from Drinking
Rachel Hart
4.9 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 25 June 2019
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
How compare and despair may be keeping you from changing your habit of drinking. Compare and despair comes up in all areas of life, so it's important to understand how this thought pattern makes you feel isolated, worthless, and disempowered when you're actually the opposite. I share some examples of compare and despair, how to recognize when you're in this mindset, and how to get off this mental treadmill and start to make changes in your life.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Take a Break podcast with Rachel Hart, episode 127. |
| 0:07.0 | Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the habit from the inside out. |
| 0:14.0 | We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink and why it can be hard to resist temptation. |
| 0:20.0 | No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking. |
| 0:28.0 | Now here's your host, Rachel Hart. |
| 0:35.0 | All right everybody, welcome to the podcast. Now listen, sometimes a universe has really funny ways of sending you the perfect thing. |
| 0:46.0 | I just sat down to start this recording and I checked my phone, wanted to see what time it was, |
| 0:53.0 | and I got a text message from a really, really good friend of mine, Megan from college, and she sent me this message. |
| 1:02.0 | I'm listening to your sister testify at the Massachusetts State House right now. |
| 1:08.0 | Can you believe that I love this so much? I love getting a text message like this. |
| 1:14.0 | My sister is a total badass and the reason why I'm sharing it with you is because today we're talking all about compare and despair |
| 1:24.0 | and how this is going to get in the way of changing the habit of drinking. |
| 1:31.0 | But here's the thing, compare and despair is a concept that appears in so many areas of your life. |
| 1:38.0 | So yeah, you got to clean it up in the area of how much you drink and constantly looking around and thinking to yourself, |
| 1:45.0 | why can't I drink like everyone else? Why is everybody else a normal drinker and I'm the one with the problem? |
| 1:50.0 | You got to clean it up there, but you also have to clean it up in all areas of your life. |
| 1:56.0 | Because if you have listened to the podcast before, you've heard me talk about my older sister, Rebecca, |
| 2:02.0 | I love her dearly, but you know what? I spent so much time growing up so much time, |
| 2:09.0 | in fact all of my 20s feeling like, ugh, I just don't measure up. She's so much better, she's so much smarter, |
| 2:17.0 | she's so much more accomplished. I was in total compare and despair with her. |
| 2:22.0 | And I will tell you that understanding this concept and doing the thought work around it has completely changed my relationship with her |
| 2:31.0 | because now I can get a text message like that and hear that right now as I am recording this podcast, she is testifying in front of a state legislature, |
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