I never thought about the future like I was single until my mid to late 30s you know

before we got together my money was my money if I just wanted to go out with my boys

if I want to go out to Vegas if I want to go out drinking a couple of nights a week

as long as I had enough in my pocket that I could go do those things I was happy.

Now that we're together and our expenses are together I'm so scared of spending anything

because I don't want to lose it and what would you say you're feeling is toward money if you

hadn't described in a word. One word afraid and it scares me too and I feel like I can't tell him

I'm scared because I'm the one that manages it it puts a lot of pressure on me to like get my

things together when I feel like okay like I'm 30 I could make a little bit of a mistake but I feel

like I can't because he's 45 and I need to think about him because he's not thinking about himself

it makes me you know have doubts of our relationships sometimes.

Meet Christina and Ron Christina's 30 Ron is 45 and they've been married for four years.

Christina wonders why she's the one managing money in their relationship especially when

Ron is older and he should be thinking about his retirement. Now before I speak to couples

on this podcast I always get prepped but I have to tell you I was extremely surprised by a lot of

what I discovered in today's conversation. You're going to hear financial decisions that shocked me

and you're going to hear a lot of very very surprising money psychology. By the way speaking

of money psychology you ever notice when someone gets complimented on something they're wearing

and their automatic responses thanks I got it on sale that's just one of the many ways that we

play small with money and this coming Saturday October 14th in my newsletter I'm going to be

writing about five ways that we play small with money. Make sure you're on the list so you can

get this newsletter at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter. Okay let's get to the episode.

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