You don't push it, you punch it, come on.

I'm Angela Duckworth.

I'm Stephen Dubner.

And you're listening to No Stupid Questions.

Today on the show, where is the line between a role model you admire and a competitor you

envy?

Good for them.

I'm so glad that they're more successful than I am.

Angela, we recently received an interesting email from Trisha who says, why do humans

seem to need to see, quote, someone like me in order to feel they can achieve something?

There is no one, quote, like me except me.

So if I truly want to do something, I will do what I can to do it.

Where does that like me come from?

Let me just say to Trisha, when you say there is no one like me except me, I mean, no,

there are a lot of people who are like you.

Oh, really?

I thought she was 100% right on that.

Look, there is no other Trisha.

And you know, I'm not just giving Trisha a hard time, but there are people who have

some resemblance to Trisha in their personality and character and their gender and their ethnicity.

I don't want to get tellmuda here, but I'm kind of feeling like there are some

many times where we see somebody and we say, oh, they're like me.

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