119: Overcoming Codependency + Perfectionism with Alana Carvahlo
The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast
Jamie Scrimgeour
4.9 • 723 Ratings
🗓️ 1 November 2021
⏱️ 41 minutes
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Summary
Today's episode is with Alana Carvalho – licensed mental health counsellor who focuses on helping parents, couples and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old patterns, setting boundaries and finding our voice. She is especially passionate about helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more joy filled life.
As a recovering perfectionist and high functioning co-dependent let's bring on the joy!
In this episode we dive into
-how being codependent and a perfectionist is related
- how these tendencies relate back to our childhood
- how perfectionism and codependency show up in how we parent
- finding the happy place between being selfless + selfish
For more From Alana visit https://www.alanacarvalho.com
Or follow on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/thecodependentperfectionist/
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| 0:00.0 | Hey there, it's Jamie Scrimmger here, and you're listening to The Kickass Stepmum podcast. |
| 0:07.0 | I'm a wife, a mom, a stepmom, a coach, a conversation opener, and a BS caller. |
| 0:13.0 | Eight years ago, I found myself sitting on the bathroom floor, bawling my eyes out, wondering what the heck I was thinking, marrying a man with three kids and an ex-wife. |
| 0:21.4 | Look, don't get me wrong, I was madly in love. The kids were great. But being a stepmom is, |
| 0:26.5 | well, it's just complicated. If you know, you know. As a 26-year-old with zero experience in the |
| 0:32.2 | parenting department, I went to the internet for support. But I was disappointed with what I found. |
| 0:39.1 | So I decided to create the type of support I was looking for. Raw, real solution-focused conversations about all things |
| 0:43.9 | motherhood, stepmotherhood, and living at kick-ass life. Life can be hard, really freaking hard. |
| 0:50.2 | But it's entirely possible to thrive amongst the tough stuff. Each week, I will bring you tips and strategies and mindset shifts to inspire you to live your own version of a kick-ass life. |
| 0:59.8 | We'll bring you along as I create my own. |
| 1:02.3 | Let's do this. |
| 1:08.5 | Hello, hello, welcome back to the show. |
| 1:32.4 | And if you're new, welcome to the kick-ass step-mom podcast. I named it kick-ass step-mom podcast, not because I think I am some kick-ass step-mom with all the answers. I definitely am not. I screw up on the reg. I named it the kick-ass-stant-mom podcast because when I started this community, when I started having these conversations, I thought to myself, I'm like, what do I want for my life? |
| 1:36.8 | What do I want for the women who follow me and who are in this community? |
| 1:40.1 | And the first thing I thought of was that I want to live a kick-ass life. |
| 1:41.7 | And I want that for you guys too. |
| 1:46.4 | So that's why I named it the Kickass Stemann podcast. By the way, |
| 1:53.3 | Kickass Life podcast was taken. So hello, welcome to the show. I hope you're feeling good. I am just so pumped to have this conversation with you today. Today's episode is with Alana Carvello and she is a licensed |
| 2:00.0 | mental health counselor who focuses on |
| 2:02.1 | helping parents, couples, and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old |
| 2:08.3 | patterns, setting boundaries, and finding their voice. She is especially passionate about |
| 2:13.7 | helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more |
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