You guys could have warned me of this ahead of time, but when I went out and booked

tour with Datonomics, I would lay all this out in talks and women would say, okay, I feel a lot

better. It's not my fault. Now I have something I can tell my mom, but tell me what to do.

And I didn't really have a good answer for them, Ben.

Right. And then that's when you wrote Make Your Move, which also makes sense because it's like,

you genuinely went on the data.

You're like, this is what I found from the data.

And it wasn't what I expected, but this is the true result that I got.

Because a lot of old school dating books or even current dating books for women,

I feel like are very like, you have to get chosen. And I feel like

your book is very like, listen, the numbers are not in your favor. You got to do something to stand

out or you have to make moves yourself. Right. What's so funny about this is this, this philosophy of

waiting around. We would never apply this to any other part of our life. Like if,

like if one of you needed knee surgery,

would you wait for the orthopedist to call you up and find you?

Funny story.

I did actually have to wait and then I had arthritis at 19.

So it's not a good thing when you do.

I know,

but like you weren't like waiting for the perfect surgeon to call you up, right?

Like and we don't, if there was a job you really wanted, you wouldn't wait for them to, to like, notice you.

Right.

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