114. The Shame-Blame Trap

Overcome Pornography for Good

Sara Brewer

Christianity, Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness

5 • 679 Ratings

🗓️ 20 March 2023

⏱️ 14 minutes

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Summary

When you feel shame around having viewed pornography, blame is never far behind. Whether you blame yourself and experience more shame or you find someone else to blame for what you’re going through, this is a trap many of my clients are stuck in when they first come to me.

Start the work of escaping the shame-blame trap. I’m sharing why, even though it’s difficult to talk yourself out of shame, you can move through it with compassion for yourself, without resorting to blaming others.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.sarabrewer.com/blog/shame-blame-trap

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0:00.0	You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, episode 114, The Shame,
0:06.0	Blame Trap. Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based,
0:12.9	trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. This approach has been revolutionary
0:19.9	and changed thousands and thousands of lives. I'm your
0:23.7	host, Sarah Brewer. Hey everyone, welcome to the podcast this week. Glad you're here. Last week, I was so
0:34.1	sick. I had COVID and strep throat and it really took me out. I was I was down for the count for a good
0:43.9	three, four days last week. It was a bummer. So I hope you all are staying a little bit more
0:48.5	healthy than I have been. The other exciting news in my life is that we are moving this week.
0:53.9	We are moving and we are moving
0:56.2	just down the road, honestly, five minutes from where I live now, but to a new home that we're
1:01.5	really excited about. We're going to have a yard. We haven't had a yard in our current home and we have
1:07.4	two little kids and so a yard is going to be really fun.
1:16.5	It's close to some really nice walking paths and biking paths.
1:19.8	And so we're just really excited, really looking forward to summer.
1:33.4	I don't know how winter has been for you guys where you are at, but here in Utah, oh, man, winter is still here. And it's, it's like in full force too. It's so cold and snowy. And usually this time by March we're having at least a few warm days here and there.
1:39.2	Not this year, man. It feels very, very, very much still winter. And so we're hoping spring will pop up soon.
1:46.7	Really, really hoping spring pops up soon. And in the meantime, I'm going to use my happy light.
1:51.0	You know, those lights that give you the vitamin D or the rays that you need for the sun. We're
1:56.2	just going to keep using those. Let's just dive into the content today. I want to talk about the
2:00.6	shame blame trap. So we to talk about the shame blame
2:01.4	trap. So we've talked about shame apathy trap before, and you can go listen to that if that
2:06.9	interests you. But the main idea there is that this feeling of apathy, oh, I just don't even care
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