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and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we are going to be

talking all about what to do when your partner doesn't want to do the

work. So when one of you is really wanting to grow and wanting to actively work on the

relationship, whether that's from a place of need, as in the relationships in dire straits and you know

that that kind of work is required in order for the relationship to

survive or maybe you're wanting the relationship to go from okay to great but in either scenario

or any combination of those or anywhere in between it's a really common dynamic that one person

is more invested or more proactive about wanting to work on the

relationship and they are met with resistance from the other person who is maybe not as

interested in personal development kind of work, maybe doesn't want to look at the dynamics in

the relationship with a critical lens and see where things

could be better. So it's really very normal and, as I said, very common for couples to find

themselves in this kind of situation. And I'm going to share some thoughts on how you can tackle

that, how you can think about it and some paths forward for you if that's

a situation that you find yourself in and you're really wanting to be able to connect with your

partner and get to be on the same page or at least have some common goals around what you desire

for the relationship and how you can work together to head in

the right direction. Before I dive into that, a couple of quick announcements. You might have heard me

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