Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Groves podcast.

I mean thinking a lot about that saying that the universe doesn't give you what you want.

It gives you what you need.

Like it gives you the experiences that you need in order

to transcend in order to become better, in order to become stronger, and build resiliency and

see that you can. And it makes me think of like in all of my experiences of thinking, you know,

that you get handed what you can handle, but sometimes you're not sure that

your hands can hold what you get handed, that you're actually required to expand in order to

hold what's going on in our lives, the grief, the anger, the transition, the change, the

uncertainty, all the things. And in that, like, whenever you have to

expand, you have to crack. And what the cracking does is it makes life more unfamiliar. It makes

our own identity become unfamiliar because there's something safe about maintaining a certain

size container, which is that you know you can hold it, right? So there's, when

something comes into your life that says, nope, you got to, you got to break, you got to go,

you got to, you got to become different, you got to become bigger, you got to, you got to transform.

And we don't often think of our life experiences as constantly being an invitation to that. And I think that a

lot of the times that's because we are so used to playing small and being in small containers

and wearing masks, that that's what grief reminds us. That's what change reminds us. That's what

loss and uncertainty remind us is that you can hold it all,

that you are big enough, that you always were.

And so it's more of a reminder, you know, a reminder that you're remembering,

which you think about like to remember, you know, like I think of that idea of like another member is entering who you are,

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