#111: Talking to Your Spouse About Sex

Famous at Home

Josh + Christi Straub

Parenting, Relationships, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Society & Culture, Kids & Family

4.9 • 653 Ratings

🗓️ 12 June 2019

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Sex is the elephant in the room. At some point, every spouse feels the unspoken tension. For many marriages, the elephant grows bigger after our kids enter the family.

In this episode, we call out the elephant in the room and provide ways you and your spouse can begin talking about sex with one another in an emotionally safe way. We talk about:

* Why sex is so difficult to talk about in the first place
* How to communicate about sex if past trauma is influencing physical intimacy in your marriage
* What to do if only one spouse is interested in talking about sex
* How husbands need to approach the conversation
* Helpful ways for wives to approach the conversation
* Why the word "duty" should be banished from the conversation altogether
* Practical ways to talk about sex in an emotionally safe way

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0:00.0	One of the things Christy and I do is we kind of have this unwritten rule of...
0:05.0	Rule strong.
0:06.0	Rules strong word.
0:08.0	Unwritten thing where I initiate one time a week.
0:11.0	Rhythm.
0:12.0	Let's call it a rhythm.
0:13.0	It's a good word for it.
0:14.0	Thank you.
0:15.0	Rhythm.
0:16.0	Where we both initiate at least one time a week so that there's not this sense of I'm always the one initiating sex or she's
0:21.8	always the one initiating sex where it's like there's this sense of like yeah we're gonna actually
0:26.3	we're both we both desire one another and I think that's a that's been a healthy that's been a
0:33.2	healthy thing for us it has and but it requires talking about it to come up with that plan
0:38.4	you're listening to the In This Together podcast with Dr. Josh and Christy Straub, a podcast dedicated
0:43.7	to helping you live, love, and lead well as a spouse, a parent, and a human being.
0:49.9	Because no matter where you're at in your journey, you're not alone. We're in this together.
0:57.4	Welcome back to the In This Together podcast. We are talking today from a newly renovated office that we
1:04.7	have in our house. It's only taken how many years to do do this i know it's crazy and uh we're getting
1:13.2	there we still need to do a few things but it's nice to be in a place that feels warm yes
1:19.5	um today we are talking about sex marriage and we had a we had an episode on a few weeks ago. Actually, it's probably been
1:32.2	a few months ago now where we talked to Ryan and Laura Dobson about sex. And we've gotten a lot
1:37.4	of questions since then about, um, how do we actually have these conversations about sex?
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