It's giving into the grain of truth and the criticism the other person is making against you.

Because there's probably a grain of truth in it.

And so if we can just give into that a little bit, it disarms the other human being.

It disarms your spouse.

It disarms the argument because it's like, oh, you actually can, you actually are understanding what I'm

feeling right now.

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Welcome back to the End This Together podcast.

Today we are talking part two about an emotionally safe marriage.

And last week we talked about it was part one of an emotionally safe marriage and it was sort of how it goes part one followed by part two your willingness to engage this process to be emotionally safe and we talked about three ways. So if you didn't listen to part one we would encourage you to listen to part one before we get into part two because we talk about... The practical of what emotional safety is and looks like is one thing, but most often

we find it's the willingness to do it. That's the key. And there are ways that you can tell whether

or not you're actually willing, because you can say in your head, like knowledgeable, like,

oh yeah, I'm willing to do it.

I want to be more connected to my spouse.

I want to have a marriage that feels fulfilling and intimate, and then you hit all the...

But when you look at the communication and how we're actually talking, you actually see that,

no, you're actually not willing because you're blaming the other person.

And there's wounds, there's hurt. That's just part of it. But it's the willingness to

press into all of that. Remember when intimacy, the willingness to endure the negative feelings

...