111: Are You the Martyr, Mother, or Manager? This Kills Attraction (Anxious Attachment Trap)

BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

Margarita Nazarenko

Sexuality, Society & Culture, 821801, Health & Fitness, Education, Relationships

5 • 1.4K Ratings

🗓️ 4 May 2025

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Are you showing up as the Martyr, Mother, or Manager in your relationship — and wondering why he’s pulling away, even when you’re doing everything right?

This video is for the woman who’s anxiously attached, constantly trying to hold it all together in love… but secretly feels exhausted, unappreciated, and less desired over time.

If you find yourself:

• Over-functioning in your relationship

• Resentful, but afraid to let go

• Always trying to “fix it” or manage him

…then you’re likely stuck in one of these 3 hidden roles that kill attraction and block polarity.

In this video, I’ll break down:

1. How anxious attachment feeds the Martyr, Mother, and Manager roles

2. Why these roles drain your feminine energy and push him away

3. What the Muse does differently — and how to shift into her energy starting today

This is the real fix — not more effort, not more talking, not more self-blame.

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