108. "How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids," author Jancee Dunn
Marriage and Martinis
Adam Silverstein
4.8 • 1.4K Ratings
🗓️ 2 March 2020
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
New York Times' Bestselling author, Jancee Dunn, joins Danielle and Adam to discuss her ideas about "The Mental Load" and how her marriage almost ended after the birth of her first child. Using "escapism" to deal with an overwhelming and stressful situation, Jancee's husband left her with the bulk of the parenting responsibilities from day one, causing an enormous amount of friction to occur within their otherwise strong and wonderful marriage. Determined to resolve the issue and figure out a more balanced set of parenting tasks, Jancee went full force into research mode, talking to experts, therapists, and even a hostage negotiator to figure out how to overcome this enormous hurdle. How could they communicate their needs more effectively? How could they stop fighting in front of their child? How could they get back to being the loving, connected couple they once were? Jancee is both hilarious and relatable while telling all about her experience with what so many couples go through after kids. Her honesty is refreshing, and fits in perfectly on Marriage and Martinis.
How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids
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| 0:00.0 | May I have your attention please you can now book your train tickets on Uber and get |
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| 0:16.5 | Trains now on Uber. T's and C's apply. Check the Uber app. Yep. Wye. Hey guys, welcome to Marager Martini's, I I'm Adam and here's Danielle. |
| 0:55.0 | Hi. So this week's episode I've been on Instagram on stories posting one of our most downloaded episodes of all time is the |
| 1:05.2 | mental load episode. I think it's number 85 if you haven't listened to it you can go |
| 1:09.2 | back and listen to episode 85 the mental load. One of our most downloaded and probably one of the most |
| 1:15.5 | commented on episodes ever if you loved that episode or even if you didn't hear |
| 1:20.3 | it yet you should go listen to it but you're also going to love this |
| 1:24.2 | episode she would gentsy I know you you love her I do if you're |
| 1:29.6 | listening we love you yeah he you really I mean I loved Yeah, of course, but we had so much fun with her recording and being in the city. Oh yeah, so much. It was so much fun and Jansi Dunn is a New York Times best selling author. She's the author of five books, |
| 1:43.6 | and she was a staff writer at Rolling Stone |
| 1:45.7 | for over a decade. |
| 1:47.1 | A VJ at MTV for five years. |
| 1:49.8 | Is she living my dream life, or what? |
| 1:52.1 | She writes for many publications publications among the New York Times |
| 1:55.0 | Vogue travel and leisure food and wine and parents I can go on and on she was a |
| 2:00.1 | columnist for GQ, Oprah magazine, |
| 2:03.0 | and she lives in Brooklyn with her husband, |
| 2:04.8 | who's also an author, and their daughter. |
| 2:07.3 | After Jansy had her baby, |
| 2:08.9 | she found that she was doing virtually |
| 2:10.9 | all the household chores. |
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