How do I distinguish healthy behavior versus unhealthy behavior with my partner in recovery?

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Okay, Brandon, another good one ready to go with today. Before we do that, just a quick review. Thank you guys for your reviews. I like this one. It's calling out another one of our guests just saying some really kind things. It says PJ is so brave PJ is one of our past guests.

I love this latest episode. I resonated with it so much with her pain and struggle. PJ is on the path to healing such great insight and a reminder to control only what is yours to control.

Then it's got a couple of emojis with a heart, a strong arm. Awesome. PJ was brave. She was awesome and is really good talking to her. I love talking to our guests, Tyler. We get such good guests. So awesome. It's awesome.

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All right, Brandon, before we jump in, you just told me about some crazy thing you're doing, like the New Year's resolution type deal.

Oh, man, like, you know, we treat addiction and the fact of the matter is is like food kicks my, my, so I'm on a cleanse. And yeah, I won't talk about my bowel movements too much, but it's been interesting.

Well, when you go from two days of a hickama to three days of watermelon only, there's going to be something weird going on. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know what, here's, here's the fascinating part is like, you don't understand when you're numbing your life out.

Like if you're really numbing out with sugar and food and these things, like you start to feel things that are deep down in there that you don't realize you start to feel emotions. There's even like spiritual awakening stuff that happens when you're kind of hungry.

It's been really fascinating, really interesting. Also, like, like, it's hard for me to, like, hang out with you, Tyler and because everything is centered around food, can't go to a family party anymore.

Yeah.

So anyways, we could go on and on about that, but I'm feeling good. I'm feeling healthy. It's the New Year.

By February, I should be back at McDonald's, so I'm just kidding.

Just kidding.

All right, man, well, we got a good guest on today. Crystal has been willing to come on and share. So Crystal, thank you for coming on. And if you don't mind, just give us a little bit of background, whatever you feel comfortable sharing and then ask your question. We'll have a discussion.

Yeah, my name's Crystal. I've been with my partner for six years now.

I've kind of had like a staggered disclosure.

Before we started dating, he had told me that he had a porn addiction and that he was working on it. So that summer before we started dating, he was absent.

We thought that was, you know, recovery back then.

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