107: Forget What You Thought You Knew About Good Sex and Start HERE
Lovers and Friends with Shan Boodram
LOVERS by shan
5 • 5.5K Ratings
🗓️ 21 February 2025
⏱️ 39 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Beyond Pleasure: Three Keys to Truly Fulfilling Sex
Sex is at the intersection of life and humanity. For the majority of us, it’s how we got here and for parents, it’s how we will continue on after we are gone. We often hear the term “better” sex, which begs two questions: what does that mean? And, why is the sex we are currently having not good enough?
In this episode we will define the goal of sex - regardless of the stage of the relationship and we will also discuss what prevents us from having sex that lives up to our desired potential. I’m going to take you on a journey as we explore the three sexual freedoms. Starting with discussing the power of freedom to, which I think describes the stage that myself and my husband/ the creative director of this podcast, Jared Brady are in. Then freedom from, which I discuss with my friends Yancy and Premika Leo. Finally we will talk about the Freedom not to, which I explore with my Lovers Community.
Thank you Bumble
This episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble who encourages you to date your way. There is a world where you can date exactly who you want, however you want. So date now, on Bumble.
My class on MasterClass
If you’d like tangible tips for improving your relationship with sex AND your sex appeal. I HIGHLY recommend checking out my class on MasterClass the Art of Sex Appeal
masterclass.com/shan
Better Sex Quiz
If you want to know which freedom you should focus on in order to improve your sex life today, try this quiz
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/bettersex
Commitment Structure Quiz
If Shan and Jared’s conversation around open relationships intrigued you, take this quiz to identify your commitment structure
https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/commitment
Join My Mailing List
https://www.loversbyshan.com/newsletter
Lovers Community
If you’re interested in joining the Lovers community click here to join the waitlist
https://www.loversbyshan.com/community
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | Have you ever gone through a period of time where sex just didn't feel right? |
| 0:04.6 | At least not all the way. |
| 0:06.3 | I was there. |
| 0:07.5 | You said to me that your sex drive was still high. |
| 0:10.7 | Oh, yeah. |
| 0:11.3 | But your drive to have sex with me. |
| 0:13.5 | Let me just be. |
| 0:14.7 | But then about a year after I finished having kids, I start noticing that I am getting to these heights and peaks and new experiences |
| 0:22.2 | of pleasure. This can't be normal, right? So I started researching and talking to others, |
| 0:27.6 | and it turns out that a lot of people found that after a major life change, sex got significantly |
| 0:33.3 | better. Why? And this question brought me to a formula that I promise will change your relationship |
| 0:41.1 | with sex for the better by the end of this video. I had so much like shame about my body, |
| 0:47.9 | shame about being a woman, right? Shame about like what I was interested in. But really and truly, |
| 0:52.9 | when you look at these tumble walls, |
| 0:54.2 | it's like, well, if they can do it, why can't I? |
| 0:59.7 | This episode of Lovers is presented by Bumble. |
| 1:02.2 | Date Your Way on Bumble. |
| 1:03.9 | Love as a friend. |
| 1:09.0 | Love is a friend. Jared, we're filming up friends Jared, we're filming today |
| 1:15.6 | Yeah, I'm already setting up |
| 1:17.6 | Oh |
| 1:23.6 | Back when the things we've snatched |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from LOVERS by shan, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of LOVERS by shan and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.