Welcome to Fit for Your Mind Friday, where I share an insight from me to you.

I turned 48 this week and I chose to do something a little crazy, at least for me, it was a little

crazy. I got the word surrender tattooed on my right arm for my 48th birthday.

And I'm actually shocked when I woke up this morning and I saw it again. I was like, I cannot

believe I got this done. But I wanted to share why. You see, I've been a control freak and a people

pleaser and someone's scared of judgment for years. Can you relate to that? Is that something that comes up for you?

I'll say it again. Control freak, people pleaser, and someone scared of judgment. In fact, if you

had asked me years ago if that was me, I would have said no, I think I was in denial. But looking back,

that was totally me. Control freak, people pleaser, and someone scared of judgment

from others. And this was for years. And I finally realized that, wow, this has really cost me

living life to its fullest. And I've decided I've had enough of it. You see, control and

people pleasing, they're illusions. And they are hurting a lot of people's lives. If you think back to when we

were children, there was a time, some time in your childhood, when you knew love, trust,

possibility, nothing felt out of reach. Anything seemed possible. And all we wanted and needed was

to be authentically loved. Can you remember a time

like that? We trusted. We were confident. We were happy. We were present. I look at kids sometimes

playing at the park or at the beach and I see so much of that trust, confidence, happy, present.

Not a care about anyone else's opinion, not a care about judgment,

not trying to control any type of situation, just being present and living and having fun.

And then you know what?

Life happens.

We get let down.

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