This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole.

For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations

from my time on the front lines of the fascinating worlds of entertainment,

empowerment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode.

Well, hello and welcome to Hello Freedom. I am your host Terry Cole.

I'm super psyched. You decided to spend some time with me today talking about one of my favorite topics, how to draw healthy boundaries in your life.

In this episode, I'm going to be exploring how you can create healthy boundaries with

impossible people in your life, difficult people in your life, even

narcissists or people who use passive aggressive tactics to communicate, and that is

a lot more complicated than it may sound.

Let's start with simply identifying what is a boundary. So a boundary is really being

clear, you being clear about what is okay with you and what is not okay with you in relationships. So here's the problem. If you

are raised in a family system that didn't teach you healthy boundaries and most of

us were raised with some kind of

dysfunctional boundary system right it didn't have to be terrible it's not always

about abuse but a system that didn't really work. My own family was kind of was

so if something was difficult to talk about, nobody actually talked about it.

It was very, everything was sort of underground, which it didn't mean that people weren't mad.

It just meant that people weren't talking about what they were mad about.

You know, there are other systems and dysfunctional ways of boundaries being expressed in family systems like

screaming and yelling. This is one way. Now that's not effective but it's very

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