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Let's go ahead and are you guys comfortable sharing one of your letters that you wrote?

One of the big issues that people face going through faith crisis is how do I communicate this?

Okay, the spouses, if there's spouses, they're on board, the kids are now on board, the families all

kind of cohesive. But now, how do I, with parents, with grandparents, with aunts and uncles, with siblings,

with cousins, maybe there's co-workers, maybe there are ward members, how in the world do I come out?

Because living authentic is healthy in many ways and more importantly, it's really hard to hide

in Mormonism. Everybody wants to know your calling. Everybody wants to talk to you about, have you been

in the temple lately? Do you have a current temple recommend? They're looking for your garment line to

see if you're wearing your garments and why aren't you wearing your garments and how come I haven't

seen you at church? Like, it's really hard to hide. Mormons, notice when you're, when you're not going,

they know when you're not serving and they're going to be poking and prodding. And so even if you

wanted to just be discreet and private, it's really hard to do that for a prolonged period of time.

And so people feel the pressure at some point of coming out. And the big mistake that people make,

if you don't know this, is, you know, Jeremy Reynolds's CES letter is one of 50,000 letters that have

been written over the course of Mormonism. We're somebody who had their faith crisis felt like they

needed to write it all out. And of course, we love Jeremy. We love CES letter. But I've, I've been sent

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