104: 6 Things to Stop Doing To Take Back Control of Your Life
The Nick Bare Podcast
Nick Bare
5 • 5.9K Ratings
🗓️ 20 January 2025
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
In this podcast episode, I discuss six key things to stop doing in order to regain and take control of your life. Drawing from my own personal experiences and mistakes, I'll emphasize the importance of stopping certain behaviors that hinder personal growth and control.
The six things highlighted include not waiting for change, avoiding assumptions, setting anti-goals alongside goals, distinguishing between busyness and productivity, seeking validation from external sources, and not letting others set the conditions of your life. These insights aim to help the listeners lead a more directed, productive, and fulfilling life.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:48 The Importance of Doing Less
02:33 Acknowledging Life Circumstances
04:30 Stop Waiting for Change
11:32 Living Life on Autopilot
17:10 Stop Making Assumptions
29:18 Stop Making Assumptions and Start Asking Questions
29:59 Set Anti-Goals Before Setting Goals
33:18 The Importance of Family Time
39:15 Stop Being Busy and Start Being Productive
48:39 Seek Internal Validation, Not External
54:07 Take Control: Set Your Own Conditions
59:20 Conclusion: Six Steps to Take Control of Your Life
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| 0:00.0 | I don't think that we should do things to prove other people wrong. |
| 0:03.2 | For some, that works. Like, that can be your fuel. |
| 0:06.4 | You're going to be successful because you want to prove all the haters wrong. |
| 0:10.0 | You're going to make this much money. |
| 0:12.4 | You're going to buy this house. You're going to drive this car. |
| 0:15.1 | That drives a lot of people. That does not drive me. |
| 0:18.2 | The things that I want to do, the things that I want to do, |
| 0:21.1 | the things that I want to accomplish, |
| 0:23.1 | the objectives I want to pursue, |
| 0:25.0 | it's not to prove others wrong. |
| 0:26.9 | It's to prove to myself that I can. |
| 0:29.4 | To prove myself right. |
| 0:31.0 | There's a will, there's a vision for it, |
| 0:33.6 | and now I just have to apply the action to actually do it. |
| 0:36.6 | Prove yourself right. |
| 0:37.7 | If the purpose behind what you do is to prove other people wrong, |
| 0:41.7 | it's to receive the validation from external sources, other people, |
| 0:47.5 | you are living your life for others, for the acceptance, |
| 0:51.7 | for the approval of others, not to help them, not to benefit them, not to show gratitude or generosity. |
| 0:59.3 | No, you're doing it for the acceptance to conform to society's norms, not based off what you |
| 1:06.0 | believe in, what you want. |
| 1:08.0 | Stop doing things for the validation of other people. |
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