1038: Getting What You Need from Your Boss through Managing Up with Melody Wilding

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How to be Awesome at Your Job

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🗓️ 6 March 2025

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

Melody Wilding breaks down the crucial conversations to have with your boss to improve your work life.

— YOU’LL LEARN —

1) How to differentiate yourself with one conversation

2) How to build your pushback power

3) The easiest way to improve your visibility

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— ABOUT MELODY —

Melody Wilding is a professor of human behavior at Hunter College and author of Managing Up. She was recently named one of Insider’s “most innovative career coaches.” Her background as a therapist and emotions researcher informs her unique approach, weaving evidence-based neuroscience and psychology with professional development. Her previous book is Trust Yourself.

• Book: Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge

• Website: ManagingUp.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —

• Book: Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen

• Book: Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen

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0:00.0	I highly recommend that you start all of your one-on-ones with your manager with wins,
0:14.1	not just dive into status updates of, oh, here's where this project is, here's where this is,
0:20.4	this is what's coming up, utilize that time to show your manager, here's where this project is, here's where this is, this is what's coming up,
0:21.8	utilize that time to show your manager, here's the outcome, the result.
0:26.8	Here's also visibility into how I thought about solving a problem, the considerations that
0:32.0	I made are the people I talked to.
0:34.3	And all of that gives them more insight into you operating at a more strategic,
0:40.7	perhaps even higher level. And it also gives them information that they need to run up their
0:46.9	own chain of command.
1:00.8	That's Melody Wilding. She's an award-winning executive coach with a background as a therapist and emotions researcher.
1:05.2	She's also the author of managing up how to get what you need from the people in charge. So you'll learn one, how to differentiate yourself with one conversation. Two, how to build your
1:10.2	pushback power. And three,
1:12.2	the easiest way to improve your visibility. And if you want a quick summary write-up of these
1:16.2	actionable takeaways, I recommend you sign up for the free gold nugget email newsletter,
1:20.1	founder Awesome At Your Job.com. I'm Pete McItis. This is How to Be Awesome at Your Job.
1:24.8	And now, here's Melody.
1:31.8	Melody, welcome back.
1:37.1	Thanks for having me again. So great to be here. Oh, it is great to be chatting with you from the fine state of New Jersey, which we discussed is lovely. That's right. Beautiful state, very misunderstood,
1:42.0	but we love our jersey. Lovely. Well, let's talk about managing up. We haven't discussed this issue in quite some
1:50.4	time, and I think it is so vitally important. Can you share with us that maybe an extra
1:55.8	surprising or counterintuitive discovery you've made as you research this Managing Up stuff?
2:01.6	Well, I think just like New Jersey, Managing Up is very misunderstood.
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