How many times have we been in the conversation and it just continues to escalate and it gets,

it's like as soon as I'm like, I've got to de-escalate this thing.

You think that? I do. Oh, I don't think that. And I'm like, if I just say it this way,

but I'm already escalating in my own mind. It's three days ago, people, three days ago.

And Selena is just off to the races every time. Doesn't even try to de-escalate it. Just running

me through the, raking me over the coast. I just don't think I should de-escalate. Those are not

the thoughts that go through my head. I'm like, how can I just not be mad, right? How can I make it

so that everything okay? So maybe that's, I just don't use those exact. How can I win this fight?

What is it going to take from here to win this argument right now? At any cost, I will win.

Anyway, we're going to talk about 10 ways to help de-escalate conflict. And it's,

namely, I think, to help de-escalate really, I think, hard and loud arguments.

Like, bad arguments. I don't de-escalate that situation. Anyway, I hope it's helpful to you.

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All right, this is real time, folks. It's really happened like three days ago.

Yeah, what happened? I just, we had to, something went wrong. I'm trying to not like be so...

No, I just thought of a fight that we had that was not the one you're thinking of.

But this is the one we was late at night and I was like, so upset because you had said something.

Do you remember that? I was standing at the stove. I was cooking and I was like, you know what?

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