10 Things about Dating I Wish I Knew in My 20s
Soul Gum
by Victoria Hutchins
4.9 • 561 Ratings
🗓️ 12 January 2025
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
This episode should be called ten HARD TO HEAR things about dating I wish I knew in my twenties because... oof. Buckle up. The dating scene in your twenties is the trenches. I wish I could go back in time and tell all this to younger me. It would save her so many hours and tears and good outfits on bad dates with people who don't like her. Instead, I'll tell you. I learned each of these lessons the hard way, but you don't have to! I present to you: 10 things I wish I knew about dating in my twenties.
EPISODE OUTLINE
00:00 Intro
01:20 Break
04:09 If they treat you like they don’t care, they don’t
06:41 Someone not liking you doesn't make them a catch
10:06 Running at the first sign of conflict isn’t a flex
13:21 If you’re attracted to games, you’re the problem
16:36 Stop seeking closure from your exes
19:05 Don’t date their potential
20:14 Being single rocks
23:05 Love is not all you need
23:36 You can’t make them stay if they want to go
30:58 You can’t scare away the right person
33:39 Lightning round recap
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| 0:00.0 | All of these things are going to be really hard to hear, but if I had known them in my 20s, |
| 0:07.9 | it would have revolutionized my dating life. Let's talk about it. |
| 0:13.8 | Welcome back to SoulGum, the self-development podcast with philosophical, psychological, |
| 0:20.4 | and literary flair. |
| 0:21.9 | I'm your host, Victoria Hutchins. My goal is to give your soul something to chew on. |
| 0:28.3 | And today, we are going to be talking about 10 things I wish I knew about dating in my 20s. |
| 0:37.6 | So this is not going to be a philosophy, psychology, literature, heavy episode. |
| 0:45.4 | We're just going to be talking about the things that would have saved 20-something-year-old Victoria |
| 0:51.4 | heartbreak and emotional distress in her dating endeavors, okay? Quick |
| 1:00.1 | disclaimer before we dive in here, all of these are just my opinions and none of them are without |
| 1:06.8 | exception. These are things I needed to hear, but they might not be things that you need to hear |
| 1:12.0 | and that's okay you might also just flat out disagree with me on some of this stuff that's okay too |
| 1:16.9 | my opinions are not the Bible quick break before we dive in here I have decided to keep |
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