In a new study, athletes showed better mental toughness when they were more mastery focused as opposed to comparison focused.

And again, that's what I did a little bit of a deep dive into, to really kind of hammer home what it was that they were getting at.

And what they got out there was just if you stop comparing yourself to, I'm better than this person, I'm not as good as this person, you know, quit

putting yourself in a lineup and instead just try to master your craft. You have a better

overall mental output. You have better mental toughness. You have a better time. I suggest that

to anyone in any capacity. Do not worry about anybody else. Be very selfish about your pursuit.

And then in some moment where you, quote, unquote, have to be compared to them, chances are you leave them in the dust. Yeah. Just worry about what it is you're trying to do. Most coaches would probably have told you that over the years. Exactly. Right? Like, you never say, hey, you got to be as good as the starter in front of you go, you got to get one percent better today. Exactly. But you know what that got me thinking?

The men's room top ten.

The men's from top ten.

That got me thinking because that is a mentality change.

That is changing your brain in a very profound and foundational way into where it needs to that can actually greatly change your life, not just in the world of sports, but changing your life in the world of where it is that you're working, where you're at in your relationship, where you're at doing this, that or the other thing, having that kind of a foundational mind change could have a great, great effect on your life there. So I looked up the 10 mental tweaks that can greatly change your life, and this is the AI overview here, and they break it down in two different sets. Isn't it amazing that the word tweak generally is something positive? Something that contributes to something positive. Hey, let me just tweak this. Unless you tweak the need. Tweaker, not so good. And Miles is right, though. You can tweak your knee. Yeah. Yeah. That's not good. So they start with mindset shifts. So, and they start by saying develop a growth mindset, which is kind of what we were just talking about here. Believe that your abilities and intelligence can be developed through dedication and hard work rather than being fixed traits. You don't look at where you're at and say, this is who I am. No, again, look at where you can refine it. Absolutely. You know, you have a, marble stone that is carved there and it's a very rough thing. Okay, well, one scrape of the sanding paper at a time and you can get those edges refined. Very true. You can put the detail on it. You can do whatever it is that you need to do on that. Practice gratitude. Fully agree with this one. Regularly think, regularly think about or write down the things that you're grateful for to improve your outlook and the well-being. And I know that's a very flowery way of putting that. But I've tried to steer a lot of people that I've known in my life into the direction of stop looking at everything that's wrong with your life. Because if you do, if you look the things that you don't have, the things that you're not good at, it gets dark outside. Sure. You start looking at the things that are, that you're good with the things that you have and the things that you just have to be grateful for. Everything else that comes into your life is a blessing. It really is. And I've probably in the last two or three years it really hit me. How are you?

Or how have you been if you haven't seen them? You know, man, honestly, I have nothing to complain about it. I am very busy all the time, but I have a good life. I love my family and everything else. I don't care about it. It's people bugging me, but that I can ignore. Exactly. Actually, I had a buddy that used the phrase that I have adopted ever since.

Blessed to be stressed.

Yeah, there you go. You know what? I'm very happy to be in a position where I am concerned about what's going on in all these different places. Yeah. Embracing self-compassion. Again, these are mental tweaks that can greatly change your life. Treat yourself with kindness, especially during difficult times, and speak to yourself

with the same compassion that you would offer a friend. You wouldn't go to a friend and tell him, you fat, SOB, you know, you're good for nothing. You're not doing right by your kids. You're not doing right by your family and your spouse. So don't do it to yourself. Sure. That's fair.

Make it constructive. No matter what it is that you're looking at yourself, make it constructive.

If you're just do it to yourself. Sure. That's fair. Make it constructive. No matter what it is that you're looking at yourself, make it constructive.

If you're just dogging on yourself, you're not doing anything. No, they're not. Nothing positive. I mean, like most things, it's much easier to say to other people. Oh, yeah. Oh, absolutely. That's why this is an effort. This is why I've got to put that effort forward.

And I'm going to screw this up,

but it's actually a deal with therapy, if I'm not mistaken, that it's mental health is not an attribute.

It is a, it is an exercise. Yeah, I would agree with that.

You have to constantly work on it. Yes, you do.

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