So this is very different than what people thought I was saying, which I wasn't saying.

Find a girl, which implies work, action, looking, that you think you might be interested in, which means you know enough about her. You've had some interactions. And then ask her out to coffee, whatever. Dinner, I don't care. Lunch. Just talk to her. That's my main thing. Just go talk to her. but one guy did do a cold approach

and he actually, the girl said yes

so what do I know? I guess maybe talk to her. That's my main thing. Just go talk to her. But one guy did do a cold approach.

And he actually, the girl said yes. So what do I know? I guess maybe that does work sometimes.

All right, friends, now that this podcast has become dating central, I've decided to give you 10 more things to think about instead of 10 principles for dating for men.

I'm going to do 10 strategies for dating for men.

And the reason I'm doing it is because I've had a lot of people reach out in private messages,

asking me questions about various circumstances.

And I obviously don't know how to speak to every single circumstance.

Every single one is different.

There's also been some misunderstandings about what I meant when I said that men should find a girl they think they might like and go ask her to have coffee if she'd like to, that this was a cold approach and that never

works. And I never was advocating cold approaches. So I figured I'll put something out there that

really reflects what I believe about this. And there are varied approaches. This is a particular circumstance

that I'm bringing this information to you in. It is not obviously an arranged marriage situation

like other parts of the world still operate by and in times past, even in some Western societies they had, we live in a very different kind

of society. And I've seen the comments saying, John, we should just get back to that. And it's like,

well, if you, I mean, if you want to go convince some other parents that your kids would be good

together and something, that's on you if you want to do that. I'm not here to talk about that. I'm here to be

practical and talk about the life as it is. I don't want to deal in theory land or I don't want to

talk about what could be. I want to talk about what is and how do we turn it around? Because if we

have a population that is only growing at a 1.6, we need a 2.1 to tread water.

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