097: 3 Moves to Restore Peace after a Fight

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

Relationships, Education, Self-improvement, Society & Culture

4.7 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 28 September 2021

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

If you're anything like I was, some fights come up in your relationship more often than a hit song plays on Top 40 radio. You don't want to have the same fight over and over, but it keeps happening. You're just talking about the leftovers from dinner and next thing you know, your mother–who isn't present–is involved, and you're both yelling things you would be embarrassed to repeat. It makes you question whether this relationship is even sustainable because these blow-ups are so draining and painful. And so distracting from the things you were planning to do because the fight keeps replaying in your head. Happily, you don't have to stay stuck in wall-to-wall hostility or a week-long cold war. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 3 moves to restore peace after a fight.

Twice a year we host a free Adored Wife Challenge, where we all experiment with applying the 6 Intimacy Skills™ together every day for five days. As part of our Challenge, I interviewed Alison, who was so inspiring and authentic that I knew I wanted you, dear podcast listener, to hear what she did to make her marriage last. So we asked her permission, and Alison agreed to let me share it with you! She's going to reveal what she did so you can do the same things to make your marriage thrive.

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week is part 2 from an article on how to get your husband to take out the garbage, guaranteed to kill the romance and make you sound like a condescending, nagging kidney stone of a person.

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6 SIMPLE steps to bring back playfulness, passion, and connection to your marriage.
The 3 COMMON mistakes wives make when trying to fix things (and how to avoid them!).
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0:00.0	Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast where it's all about fixing your relationship without your man's conscious effort.
0:16.0	So you feel desired, taken care of, and special, even if your relationship feels completely hopeless.
0:22.0	I'm Laura Doyle and today's
0:24.9	podcast is about three moves to restore peace after a fight. Twice a year we host a
0:31.6	free Adored Wife challenge where we all experiment with applying the six intimacy skills together every day for five days.
0:39.0	I interviewed my guest Allison as part of our challenge and she was so inspiring and authentic I knew I wanted you
0:46.3	dear podcast listener to hear what she did to make her marriage last so we asked her permission and Allison agreed to let me share it with you.
0:55.6	She's going to reveal what she did so you can do the same things to make your marriage last and
1:00.8	thrive. And then I'll be giving out the worst relationship advice of the week award,
1:05.3	which is part two of two from an article on how to get your husband to take out the garbage.
1:11.1	It's from a publication that rhymes with mythology passé. All that is coming up, but first let's talk about three moves to restore peace after a fight. If you're anything like I was when you fight with your
1:24.2	partner you both say nasty things. It can be shocking to see how low this thing you
1:30.4	live with can go. And while I've said some very regrettable things during a fight,
1:36.2	the biggest thing on my mind when it's over is that he owes me an apology big time.
1:41.7	And it better be a good one to convince me that he's really sorry and he'll never do it again.
1:47.4	Until then I will show that I'm waiting for set apology by being distant and having an irritated look on my face.
1:54.8	That ought to motivate him. But it didn't. Mostly that approach got me a Cold War
2:02.1	and wall-to to wall hostility. It's stressful, it's
2:06.2	hurtful. Fortunately I have a better post-fight game plan now. Here are three power moves to restore the peace and
2:14.8	connection after a fight. Number one, own your part. I wish somebody had told me sooner how much peace and power there is in apologizing for my part in a scuffle.
2:28.5	Maybe they tried but I didn't get the message.
2:31.5	So I spent many years waiting to be apologized to, which just
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