This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford.

At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them.

I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work as a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work.

Hi, I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas, and welcome to self-work.

This is a podcast all about mental and emotional health, how you can get it, what you can do about problems you have and I'm so glad you're here

today we're going to be talking about how much we hide because we fear judgment and rejection. I'm going to share a little story of my own.

There are many of you who've written to me that said that you like that about this

podcast that I talk about myself some.

So we'll go at it again.

You know, it's a fact that we all make judgments all the time.

And certainly social media is making a huge impact on how we evaluate others and then feel evaluated.

But there's one gift of being a therapist that I'll tell you about having to do with judgment. There are many gifts of being a

therapist by the way, but this one is specific in its relationship to fearing judgment.

Then I've learned two things that if you believe them they will greatly reduce your own fear of judgment

Today's email from a listener which is a regular weekly feature of this podcast.

We're talking about a very painful thing that can happen in relationship

if you find that your partner has developed a sexual addiction.

What do you do? So thanks again for being

here. We're going to be talking about both fearing judgment and making them

ourselves. So glad you're here.

Back in 1992.

Back in 1992 I moved back to Arkansas. I had grown up in a small town in Arkansas,

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