054 SelfWork (Second Time Around): What Do Your Mistakes Teach You?
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 27 October 2020
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
We're on vacation so I've chosen several podcasts to feature during our absence that are special to me and are from the "early" years (or the first 100 podcasts that you may not have listened to...).
“Always be humble and kind” was a huge country hit several years ago, and I talk in this episode about making mistakes but then using them to actually learn something about yourself - which definitely takes some humility. So, what's the process involved in that kind of learning ? In this special "Second Time Around" post, sponsored by BetterHelp, I'll offer five pragmatic ideas about how to accept mistakes, and offer specific questions to ask so that you may be less likely to make them all over again. The process takes integrity, humility and even courage.
Today’s email from a listener is on coping with friends and family not being as close as they used to be, when you’re struggling with depression or anxiety. How do you not feel abandoned?
We'll be back with fresh podcasts on November 13th so see you then!
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work |
| 0:29.3 | Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical |
| 0:34.7 | psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas, and the team and I are on a little vacation |
| 0:39.4 | until November the 13th when we'll bring you again an original self-work |
| 0:45.2 | podcast. But I went through the first 100 podcast and picked either ones that were |
| 0:50.8 | some of my own personal favorites or ones that are really very how-to. |
| 0:56.4 | And we'll actually bring you two of them a week. |
| 0:58.7 | Always with the idea of reaching out to those of you who are already comfortable with psychological and emotional issues, |
| 1:04.8 | perhaps you're in therapy, to those of you who have just been diagnosed with something and you're |
| 1:08.8 | looking for answers, or for those of you who wouldn't darken the door of a therapist's office, |
| 1:14.0 | but you might just be curious enough to listen to a podcast like Self-Works. |
| 1:19.0 | So here's the rundown. |
| 1:21.0 | The first will be, Tina Turner takes a seat and that's all about me, actually I'm |
| 1:26.4 | Tina Turner, although that's a little bit hard to believe, but it's all about handling aging gracefully. |
| 1:34.0 | The next is how to learn from a mistake. |
| 1:37.0 | And there's some very basic tips I give you there. |
| 1:40.0 | Then another how-to, the day before Halloween three very practical exercises to |
| 1:47.2 | increase your self-esteem. If you've been listening to self-work for a while you |
| 1:52.2 | know I'm all about what you can do about it and |
| 1:54.4 | so this gets very specific. On the anniversary of perfectly hidden |
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