Hi, and welcome to a very special episode of the Mark Groves podcast.

I have been playing with this idea of exploring subjects

that are hot topics, that are questions and concerns that I get a lot on my Instagram

and create the love where I get to observe and experience what people are really triggered

about and what they have a hard time understanding and often

our biological response to a lot of things is much more elevated than what a rational response

would be. And what I mean by that is ghosting. Ghosting is a subject that really gets people going.

And, you know, if you think about it, you've only been texting people, you know, for a couple

days and then they just disappear off the face of the earth.

The actual level of response to something like that shouldn't be too high.

There wasn't a lot of emotional investment.

And if we do overtly emotionally invest into something so short and so on a on a intimacy level very low

you know that if there is a massive response to that it's probably very old pain living in

a micro rejection so probably pain of rejection that's being triggered in a wound that's being

really opened by um you know this micro rejection that's being triggered in a wound that's being really opened by, you know,

this microrejection that might be just a couple texts and maybe some Tinder swipes and all of a

sudden we're like, no, where did they go? So I wanted to walk through. Why does it happen? Why is it so

painful? And if we are the go-ster, why might we do that? Because I think

it's important to understand and have compassion, which is separate from tolerance. Let's get very

clear there. That having compassion for why someone might do that doesn't mean we tolerate the behavior

or say the behavior is okay. So we're not doing that. When we're understanding why people do it, we are just understanding it. It doesn't mean that we're saying, okay, well, then it's okay because they were hurting. No. You know, there's that thought that hurt people, hurt people, and healed people, heal people. And this is why it's so important that we get to discover our hurts because we all have them. And if we don't, they

start to and continue to steer our lives and we'll call it fate. We'll call it, I don't know,

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