016: Cultivating Our Deepest Connections
The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant
Michelle Chalfant
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 16 April 2015
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
I had a conversation with my husband this week that got me thinking about connections. Human connections. So this week on the show I want to talk about how we support one another when we need it most, when we're reacting from our child or adolescent chair and we need to be heard and supported the most.
This is also a discussion about how to support. That's a very different skill, learning when to listen, when to love, and when to support from our adult chair. And even more important, how to listen without letting our partner's emotions land squarely on us.
I love this conversation. My clients consistently open new doors to deeper connections with their partners when they engage these key new skills, and I'm sure you'll find treasure in it too!
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome everybody to the adult chair. I'm Pete Wright and I'm here once again with |
| 0:14.8 | Michelle Schalfont. Good morning Pete. How are you? How are you? How you feeling? |
| 0:21.3 | Feeling really good. How are you feeling? |
| 0:24.0 | I'm feeling so good. |
| 0:25.0 | I'm feeling so good. |
| 0:28.0 | I've been tapping like crazy. |
| 0:31.0 | Oh good. |
| 0:32.0 | Oh yeah. I'm just going to ask you if you're in your adult chair you are if you're doing your tapping. |
| 0:36.0 | Oh yeah, I was doing my tapping something serious. And still no pain for you. No pain. My shoulder feels great, but you know what is in terms of this is in the spirit of follow-up. I did I I got myself really frustrated. I found myself getting so worked up and it was one of those you know I teach I teach the MBA program I |
| 0:55.6 | teaching an online class right now and one of the things that I tell my |
| 0:58.6 | students is you know I it's an accelerated program and so the class classes are very quick they take one class at a time but it's a focus for five weeks on that class |
| 1:07.4 | So I tell them you know I know you work hard I try to get your grades back quickly |
| 1:11.2 | But please understand I'm also a working professional like you. |
| 1:14.4 | Sometimes it takes me the full week between classes to get you your papers back and |
| 1:18.6 | then. So before I'd even had a chance to even grade the first week's work, a student posted in the |
| 1:28.4 | chat forum how frustrated he was |
| 1:34.1 | That I'd even sent that message that this was completely unacceptable that getting work back after one week was completely unacceptable how could he possibly get better if he's not getting feedback the next day after the after the course weekends. |
| 1:44.0 | I was that that hit me sideways really hard because I work hard as a teacher. |
| 1:49.0 | I work very hard to give great and conscientious feedback. |
| 1:52.5 | And sometimes I make the trade-off of, |
| 1:54.4 | hey, you know, you, you know, you, you know, |
| 1:57.0 | you're going to get great comments from me. |
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